Monday, July 4, 2011

how to not win my heart

so i really have been have like zero luck finding a decent guy in this town.  this would be my most recent example.  last friday i went to in-n-out and the zoo with this guy.  before we had met up, we had been texting for a few days, and i had been starting to have reservations about the whole thing because he was coming off as potentially being clingy.  but i figured i would have given him the benefit of the doubt and continue with our plans.  kinda wish i hadn't.  i think i spent a grand total of about two hours (actually less, now i think about it) with this guy.  i left party because it was nine million degrees outside and it was way too hot to stay at the zoo any longer, and partly because i wasn't feeling into him enough to deal with the nine million degree heat.  he had asked me if i wanted to come over for a movie night with him, which i politely declined.  he also asked me if i wanted to go to karaoke with him the next day and meet his family.  i said i had plans.  so later that night i was at home, doing my pvp thing on WoW with my guild.  he kept texting me, and i didn't respond too quickly because that's hard to do when you are shooting magic arrows at an orc's face.  so he texted me more, asking me what i was doing.  i was finally at a stopping point so i told him what i was doing and i couldn't fight and text.  so instead of waiting for me to let him know if i was available to talk, he kept texting me like every hour to see if i was done yet.

so by this point i am far from wanting to meet up with this guy again.  so i send him a message saying that i didn't feel a romantic type connection and would not be interested in pursuing this past a friendship only level.  his response was "ok. i dont think we got much of a chance to see but you feel what you feel. i would love to still be your friend.  im not gonna lie though, your cute, sweet and really awesome so im definately bummed"*  so i figure i'm ok now and he's got the point.  apparently i was wrong.  

last night i get a text from him asking "so am i just not your type?"  i responded by telling him that he came of as clingy in his texts and that wanting me to meet his family after just meeting him was just a bit too much.  i got the following texts in response to that: "oh i didnt mean to seem that way.  im not clingy at all.  i was just enjoying talking to you because your awesome."  "everyone i know meets my family because they are cool people.  i didnt want you to get creeped out by a kind gesture."  i didn't respond because quite frankly i didn't want to engage this conversation any further, so ten minutes later i get this: "im sorry if i freaked you out.  i know we have a lot in common and the same outlooks on things,  i guess i just got too excited..."  i still didn't respond, and so far i have not heard anything else from this guy, so hopefully that is the end of it. 

so i have a few words of advice to this guy in case of the off chance that he reads this one day.  first off, tone it down like ten notches.  while eventually i would want someone to meet my family also, it would be after like at least a month of dating, not after the first date.  as alex put it, this guy would have probably been wanting to elope off to vegas after like two weeks.  also, if a girl says she can't talk right now, don't keep asking her if she's free yet.  it's annoying.  and lastly (for now), learn the proper uses of "your" and "you're."  while i suck at spelling (and i literally don't know what i would do with out spell check) i at least know basic things like that.  i think we went over that back in fourth grade. **

*just an fyi, i'm not changing any of his spelling, grammar, sentence structure, anything.  using direct quotes here
** i am also aware that due to the laws of the internet, since i have pointed out someone's spelling and/or grammatical errors, this post will have at least three of my own spelling and/or grammatical errors that i did not see when proof reading 

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