so i really have been have like zero luck finding a decent guy in this town. this would be my most recent example. last friday i went to in-n-out and the zoo with this guy. before we had met up, we had been texting for a few days, and i had been starting to have reservations about the whole thing because he was coming off as potentially being clingy. but i figured i would have given him the benefit of the doubt and continue with our plans. kinda wish i hadn't. i think i spent a grand total of about two hours (actually less, now i think about it) with this guy. i left party because it was nine million degrees outside and it was way too hot to stay at the zoo any longer, and partly because i wasn't feeling into him enough to deal with the nine million degree heat. he had asked me if i wanted to come over for a movie night with him, which i politely declined. he also asked me if i wanted to go to karaoke with him the next day and meet his family. i said i had plans. so later that night i was at home, doing my pvp thing on WoW with my guild. he kept texting me, and i didn't respond too quickly because that's hard to do when you are shooting magic arrows at an orc's face. so he texted me more, asking me what i was doing. i was finally at a stopping point so i told him what i was doing and i couldn't fight and text. so instead of waiting for me to let him know if i was available to talk, he kept texting me like every hour to see if i was done yet.
so by this point i am far from wanting to meet up with this guy again. so i send him a message saying that i didn't feel a romantic type connection and would not be interested in pursuing this past a friendship only level. his response was "ok. i dont think we got much of a chance to see but you feel what you feel. i would love to still be your friend. im not gonna lie though, your cute, sweet and really awesome so im definately bummed"* so i figure i'm ok now and he's got the point. apparently i was wrong.
last night i get a text from him asking "so am i just not your type?" i responded by telling him that he came of as clingy in his texts and that wanting me to meet his family after just meeting him was just a bit too much. i got the following texts in response to that: "oh i didnt mean to seem that way. im not clingy at all. i was just enjoying talking to you because your awesome." "everyone i know meets my family because they are cool people. i didnt want you to get creeped out by a kind gesture." i didn't respond because quite frankly i didn't want to engage this conversation any further, so ten minutes later i get this: "im sorry if i freaked you out. i know we have a lot in common and the same outlooks on things, i guess i just got too excited..." i still didn't respond, and so far i have not heard anything else from this guy, so hopefully that is the end of it.
so i have a few words of advice to this guy in case of the off chance that he reads this one day. first off, tone it down like ten notches. while eventually i would want someone to meet my family also, it would be after like at least a month of dating, not after the first date. as alex put it, this guy would have probably been wanting to elope off to vegas after like two weeks. also, if a girl says she can't talk right now, don't keep asking her if she's free yet. it's annoying. and lastly (for now), learn the proper uses of "your" and "you're." while i suck at spelling (and i literally don't know what i would do with out spell check) i at least know basic things like that. i think we went over that back in fourth grade. **
*just an fyi, i'm not changing any of his spelling, grammar, sentence structure, anything. using direct quotes here
** i am also aware that due to the laws of the internet, since i have pointed out someone's spelling and/or grammatical errors, this post will have at least three of my own spelling and/or grammatical errors that i did not see when proof reading
** i am also aware that due to the laws of the internet, since i have pointed out someone's spelling and/or grammatical errors, this post will have at least three of my own spelling and/or grammatical errors that i did not see when proof reading
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